Enough For Now

The cursor stood blinking at me for a while when I opened this page to write my very last blog post. A month ago, I put this blog on hold to re-brand it, give it a makeover, reassess some goals and create a plan to come back in October. I made the decision and I was happy with it. The stress of trying to resuscitate a mommy blog that has been struggling to hang on for some time was getting to me. Where did I fit in? I didn’t know anymore.

So, I took time off…guilt free…

And then I didn’t come back.

I started to realize everything I hate about what Mom Blogging has become, for me at least. It’s cliquey and snotty and desperate and…so fake. I don’t want to cook something six times so I can take a picture or make soup at 10 am because that’s when the light is best. When I go on vacation with my family, I don’t want every memory to be #Hashtag #SomeSponsor

To say the least, I’m feeling over exposed. When I’m blogging for a living, I feel the need to have an opinion on EVERYTHING and the truth is…I just don’t. I don’t care if you breastfeed or you don’t. I don’t care how long you keep your kid rear-facing in the car seat, their math homework, or ObamaCare. I should…but I don’t, at least not all of the time.

Most of the time I just want to live in my own tiny space in the universe with my happy family. That’s right, we’re happy. Nothing and I mean NOTHING to complain about. If the world is going to end tomorrow or the country is going to deteriorate into socialist wasteland…don’t tell me about it. I don’t want to know and I don’t have an opinion.

This is why I’m not cut out for this business. It’s changed. I’ve changed. To make something successful, you have to be passionate about what you’re doing. I don’t have the passion for Mommy Blogging, at least not anymore.

I won’t say I’ll never blog again but for now it’s time to move on. The next project awaits and I for it. If you had told me even a year ago that this blog would come to an end, I would have cried. There are no tears today and that’s how I know it’s right. If it doesn’t make you feel alive inside, it’s not worth doing.

That’s enough for now.

 


This entry was posted in 2013.

Blog Construction

A few weeks ago, I mentioned that big changes were coming. At that time, I wasn’t entirely sure what changes I was going to make. I mean, I had some ideas but nothing was set in stone and I had some big missing pieces.

My plan was slow to come together but I finally have things figured out…

I think…

So I am taking a month off! Actually, I will be working harder than ever to make my vision of this blog come to life.  September will be a quiet month here on Mommies 2 Cents but when I return, things will be new and fresh.

I hope you can stick with me through the next 30 days as I hit the reset button and work to awaken something new and wonderful. I am in awe everyday about how far this little blog has come. All of the opportunities I have had make me smile a content smile of someone who has accomplished more than they ever dreamed when they started.

I will miss what this blog was just as I miss my babies who have grown into children. However, I look forward to the future wide-eyed and ready for what may come.

I’ll see you in a month! Thank you for…everything!

Is Social Media Ruining Blogging?

Is social media ruining blogging?

When I started blogging a VERY short 3 years ago, I didn’t have my blog plugged into social media and I wasn’t plugged into other blogs through social media. I actually went “Blog Hopping”. I know that this is an outdated concept these days. Blog hopping is something that “new bloggers” do before they get with the program.

These days I spend more time on social media promoting and trying to stay relevant than actually blogging. If I have something to say, I just put it on Facebook. If I want to make a quick impact with a photo, I share it on Instagram. I have a checklist beside my laptop with a laundry list of things to before and after I hit publish on a post. Share, Tweet, Facebook, Stumble, Pin, etc…. Do you know what all of this gets me?

A ton of hits on my social media accounts.

Sharing on all of these sites does very little for my actual blog traffic it seems. I can understand that because I NEVER click a tweet or a Facebook link and follow it to a blog. I just skim through, get the jest and move on.

On top of this, social media sharing has become so complicated. Everyone stealing content to get shared through social media or being constantly engaged in some sort of controversy. You have to remember to only use certain browsers for certain social media sites, ask yourself if you shared the link or remembered to put it in the comments…

All. So. Complicated…

This September I am going to take blogging back to its original form. I am going to take my foot off the social media gas and apply my time to actually visiting blogs. I am going to read and comment in a genuine manner and share with others when it feels right, not out of obligation. 

How do you work social media into your life? Are you addicted or out of the loop?

Friday Five: 5 Things I Say A Lot…

This week has been busy so I am going to jump right into our Friday Five. I hope you all had a wonderful week and that you are surviving all of this back to school stuff!

5 Things I Say A Lot…

  1. Right. This is my filler word when someone else is talking. Sometimes I annoy myself saying it and go off on a tangent in my head about not saying it anymore…in this case, I have stopped listening to you and for that I apologize!
  2. Completely guilty of dropping the “F” bomb…especially while I am driving. In my defense, people have NO idea how to drive. I am still getting used to the slower pace here in the Midwest. This L.A. girl is used to driving fast.
  3. I’m done! I say this at least once of day. This is my grown up mommy version of stomping away…of course I am never really done…this being a mom thing sticks like glue!
  4. Exactly. This is my alternative to “right”. This is another word that I completely drive myself nuts with.
  5. Fixin’. I did not even realize that this was not an actual word until high school. It is just something that was passed down and part of my vocabulary from the beginning. I must say this word 100 times a day. I try to be aware of it and rephrase my sentence but shoot y’all! There is no other way to say it!

What do you say a lot? Let me hear it!

 

Friday Five: 5 Things I Have A Passion For

Today starts the first of a six week series called Friday Five. Every week I will have a different topic that tells you 5 things about me that you never thought you wanted to know!

5 Things I Have a Passion For…

  1. Baking. I love baking! Sometimes life gets crazy and I tell myself that I don’t have time to bake, so I spend a couple of weeks not baking. I never last very long because there is something about baking that’s calming, creative and rewarding. I love the feeling of satisfaction I get when I finish a batch of cupcakes and close the lid on the box. So perfect.
  2. Music. I have to have music going all the time. I have a station on Pandora for every kind of food I make in the kitchen. If we are having fajitas and margaritas then I’ve got the salsa music playing. If it’s a day of baking then I listen to Parisian tunes. My kids will probably look back and think I was crazy but nothing puts you in the mood like music.
  3. Christmas. Anyone in my family will tell you that I completely lose my mind during the Holidays. From Thanksgiving day right through to New Years Eve. I love the baking, the decorating, the shopping…I am the lunatic standing in front of the toy store in the freezing cold the night of Thanksgiving. I shop all night. It truly is my Super Bowl.
  4. Football. I simply adore football. I love watching professional, college, high school, pee wees…it doesn’t matter. I just love it. There is something about the comradery of the game and the All Americanness (That is so totally a word…says me!) of it. I also play a mean game of Fantasy Football…Watch out boys, Victorious Secret is taking your money this year!
  5. My family. It sounds corny but I love this bunch of nuts. I want them all to be successful at everything they do and I spend my days trying to make that happen. It’s a lot of work and a lot of sacrifice but it’s all worth it. All the driving, waiting, scheduling, moving across the country…whatever it takes for them all to succeed, I’ll do it.

What are five things you are passionate about? Leave me a comment and let me know!!

 

Midwest Monday: Indiana State Fair

This weekend was our weekend to head out to the Indiana State Fair. It was our first time at the fair here in Indy and we were pretty excited. To top it off we were going to take the Transportation Museum train down to the fair gates.

No driving downtown, no parking fee, no stress…I’m in!

It turned out to be a great decision. The train was so much fun and the kids had a great time. Everyone was dressed in traditional train clothing and they came around once we were moving to take our tickets. “Tickets please!”

The fair was packed with animals and of course the food. Mr. M2C had a hamburger but instead of a bun, it was a glazed Krispy Kreme Donut! He is braver than the rest of us. The kids and I splurged on deep-fried cookie dough, which was good but I like sneaking it out of the mixing bowl better.

Ansley enjoyed the horses and Cole liked the rides. It was actually the rides today that made me realize that our little family is changing. The kids are getting older. They both headed off onto the rides while Mr. M2C and I watched from behind the gate. It is a little bittersweet that they don’t need us to ride anymore. Although I can’t say I miss sitting in a giant spinning strawberry!

After a long day, we headed back to the train for the short ride home. Slumped in the seat with our box of salt water taffy, we felt like we had marked the final item off of our Summer to-do list. There is something about that fair that just screams “End of Summer”. Now we can look forward to Fall and everything that it has to offer.

Indiana State Fair

I wasn’t ready for the Bad Guy Drill

Bad Guy Drill

Yesterday on the way home from school, my first grader was telling me about her day. I heard about an assembly they had, how she didn’t have enough time to eat all of her apple, how they had a bad guy drill and that she made it to purple on the behavior chart…

Wait…a “bad guy drill”??…

I asked “what is a bad guy drill?”

She told me that if a bad guy comes into the school, they are to go to their hiding spots and be quiet. Then she told me the name of her hiding spot partner and that their spot was over by the cubbies behind the bookshelf.

I immediately envisioned the two of them huddled together, scared and trying to remember everything they were supposed to do. So much pressure on their little shoulders, knowing that something is wrong but not exactly sure what.

After the tragedies in Connecticut last December, I am glad to see our school taking new steps to protect the kids. We have a new security system that limits access to the school and new cameras. However, I was not prepared for the bad guy drill.

I chose not to talk to my children about what happened last year. I mean they were 5 and 4. We had just moved and Ansley was already adjusting to a new school just months into kindergarten. I didn’t feel they would take it all that well and may make them anxious to go to school.

Now comes the bad guy drill. I hear in her voice that she is unsure about it. She doesn’t really know why they are doing it or what the bad guy would be doing. To her, bad guys are people who steal dvd players out of cars because someone broke into our car 2 years ago and stole ours. She knows that there are guns and that people have them but she has no idea that someone could much less WOULD shoot a child.

Growing up in California, we practiced earthquake drills all the time. It’s a good thing we did, because I have been through 3 earthquakes while at school. The lessons we learned kept us safe. I hope my kids never have to use the skills they learned yesterday but if they do I hope it keeps them safe.