Real Housewife of Broward County
It’s been a little over 5 years since I joined the glamorous life of being a stay at home mom/housewife…ugh! I hate the word housewife. It sounds like I am being kept in the basement. It’s also something I never wanted to be. I avoided all things domestic until I was plopped down in the middle of this life.
Due to my disdain for the word and all of the duties that come along with it, I have spent the last 5 years trying to convince myself and everyone around me that I was hard at work on some other project. Something that would make me feel like I have more value.
Don’t get me wrong…I am 100% pro stay at home mom. I firmly believe that it is one of the best things I can do for my kids but I hate the way it is perceived in society. I don’t like writing “Stay at home mom” as occupation or when someone else fills it in and writes…*GULP* “Housewife”.
But I have realized in the last few weeks that my search for something more is causing me to half ass everything else in my life. The laundry was never all done, the house wasn’t decorated the way it should be, their were always a few dishes in the sink, our beds were never made, you get the idea. Also, my projects never reach completion. I give half effort to this blog, to my dessert business, my couponing and to finishing school. The problem being that I neglect my “Housewife” duties to work on these other projects so that I don’t feel like a housewife.
I wasn’t looking at my situation like I had made a choice to stay at home. I viewed it as something I “had” to do because I had kids. The truth is…I DID choose this. Mr. M2C and I set up our life so that I would be here with the kids. We both worked hard to be in this wonderful position.
So this week, I put all my extra projects aside and I focused on just the “Stay at home mom/Housewife” aspect of my life. Honestly, I feel a lot better. The house looks great, the laundry is washed and put away, the kitchen is neat and I found I have TONS of time left over. Actually, I am to the point of being bored and when I’m bored I want to shop! To save Mr. M2C sanity and my credit score, I decided to add blogging back into my day.
But I still wonder, why is it not enough for me? Why is being a SAHM/Housewife not enough? Why do I need there to be more? Is it just in my head that society looks at SAHM/Housewives as lazy or uneducated?
I’ll keep you posted…