Should I Change My Last Name?
I know I have written about this before but the issue has been popping up again lately so it’s on my mind. As some of you know, I never changed my name when I got married. I didn’t have any big feminist political reason behind it…it just wasn’t on the top of my list.
As time went by, I liked the idea of keeping my maiden name. I mean being a Holt is so deeply rooted in my personality. Besides, I thought this is a modern day. Plenty of women don’t take their husbands name…right?
That’s what I thought but in all actuality, this tiny little detail can throw a person for a tailspin. I have never in my life seen people become so confused over a concept. It stops all action in it’s tracks. It takes deep thought and questioning. People cannot understand for the life of them how we could be…married and have different last names.
In fact a few weeks ago Mr. M2C and I went to the doctor for our annual physicals. When I went in she said “Are you married?” I said “Yes, that was my husband you just saw”. She was confused. There was a long pause accompanied by a puzzled look. I broke the silence by saying “I didn’t change my name.” She said “Ohhh…interesting…”
Interesting? This is 2012 people. I understand that it is still common practice to take your husband’s name when you marry but NOT taking it is not unheard of…right?
Now that the kids are in sports and school it’s only getting more and more difficult. I am honestly exhausted from explaining it. I am thinking at this point, it may be easier to just change it. I want to stand my ground but I’m afraid I would only be making a point to myself.
Did you take your husband’s name? Why or Why not?